LGBTQ+ Lives: Navigating Legacy Planning Hurdles

We’re joined by all three profiles as they unveil the struggles that the LGBTQ+ face in legacy planning. From the complexities of the faraid to the legal repercussions of an incomplete will, there is plenty to be covered.

Tune in to learn more about the challenges legacy planning brings for the LGBTQ+ and the steps the community can take to resolve them.

It is no secret that the legal landscape is a harsh environment to traverse.

“It does give you a wakeup call,” Wei says. “Because of the way Singapore is set up, a lot of the legality has to be more explicit on our part.”

As an LGBTQ+, there is much to consider when it comes to leaving behind your legacy. “Unless you are on bad terms with your family or you don’t want certain assets to go to certain people, then you have to be very intentional and give specific instructions.” Wei says.

“I think there is also a chance to make it more inclusive,” he adds. “What we can do is to give people a lot more choice.”

Seeing that most LGBTQ+ face unconventional circumstances, Wei believes that the community should be afforded the privilege of having additional options to choose from. “It is like a lifeline,” he says. “For legacy planning, just having an extra option that is not the convention will really give a lot of minorities and people who don’t fit in the default a huge sigh of relief.”

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On top of that, the faraid also brings about an additional layer of problems for Muslims who are trying to plan ahead. “I believe there is people that will benefit from faraid,” Dee says. “But it is not for everyone.”

Looking at her own predicament, Dee feels that the distributions based on the faraid may not be ideal for her. “For my case, it does not apply, or it is not relevant to me,” she says. 

“The closest I am with is my partner,” she adds. “I want my partner to receive my legacy, rather than for it to go to someone who has not been there for me through my struggles.”

To Dee, she believes that having more resources and platforms will help quell the confusion that the Muslim LGBTQ+ have. “There are avenues to share,” she says. “And I hope I can share with other people what my struggles are.”

Considering the extra complications set forth by the faraid, it is imperative for the community to be vocal and keep communication channels open. 

It is about giving people clarity.”


Faliqh also shares the same sentiment as he took to social media to express his concerns. “Are you guys even aware that the faraid applies for the Malay queer community?” he asked.

At the same time, Faliqh fears that even with a will set in place, his wishes might not be recognised. “For a Malay Muslim, the faraid still takes into effect,” he says. “Whatever will you have already prepared with your partner or for yourself might be contested.”

This puts a wrench in Faliqh’s plans, making it a lot harder for him and his partner to do up their legacy planning. “I can foresee that there will be a lot of difficulty for most of the Malay Muslim community and whoever that is queer.”

“For me, I would like to exercise my right to plan things ahead,” he says. “So, I am trying my best with whatever options I have.”

Faliqh deems that the best way forward for the community is through constant sharing of knowledge and information. “I hope that anyone who has access to that information will be able to share with the community,” he says. “Because being able to distribute to the person or organisation whom you want to give your assets to is really important.”

The more that we share, the more we can influence people.”